Post by Georgina on Jul 11, 2009 13:34:45 GMT -5
I sat in a church yesterday morning attending my friend’s brother’s funeral. He took his own life last weekend. His family was in so much pain of mixed guilt and grieving it was palpable. The church was full; he and his family are well surrounded with friends and community.
I was sitting at the back of the church with another friend saving a place for yet one more friend who was late arriving. That’s why we sat at the back so his late arrival wouldn’t be noticed or interrupt anything. My friend was late to the funeral because he had a radiation treatment to attend prior. Next week he’ll be in an eight-hour surgery to remove a large malignant growth that’s threatening his life. He’s going to lose a large portion of his body in the process. We’re all pretty frightened for him, however the prognosis is excellent.
So I sat waiting with one friend who’s more than a little scared while supporting her husband in his fight for his life, while we witnessed another friend grieving a brother for whom fighting to hold onto life was too much. The two men are the same age.
This isn’t a, “Oh my – so many difficult things are going on in my life” post, because truly, this isn’t about me at all. I just wanted to say that the situation gave me pause to contemplate the frailty of it all. Maybe that’s trite. And to give air to witnessing two extraordinary life struggles simultaneously.
And sometimes all you can do is stand there and hold in your arms the people who are walking through the parts of life that are least explicable and most painful.
I was sitting at the back of the church with another friend saving a place for yet one more friend who was late arriving. That’s why we sat at the back so his late arrival wouldn’t be noticed or interrupt anything. My friend was late to the funeral because he had a radiation treatment to attend prior. Next week he’ll be in an eight-hour surgery to remove a large malignant growth that’s threatening his life. He’s going to lose a large portion of his body in the process. We’re all pretty frightened for him, however the prognosis is excellent.
So I sat waiting with one friend who’s more than a little scared while supporting her husband in his fight for his life, while we witnessed another friend grieving a brother for whom fighting to hold onto life was too much. The two men are the same age.
This isn’t a, “Oh my – so many difficult things are going on in my life” post, because truly, this isn’t about me at all. I just wanted to say that the situation gave me pause to contemplate the frailty of it all. Maybe that’s trite. And to give air to witnessing two extraordinary life struggles simultaneously.
And sometimes all you can do is stand there and hold in your arms the people who are walking through the parts of life that are least explicable and most painful.