One of my daughters just called to say she was on the dean's list for last semester, her first at university.
This is such an important success for her. She's exactly in the middle of the roster — four older, four younger. She hasn't been as successful as some of her siblings, nor as troublesome as some others. Sometimes she just gets lost in the middle, and she's suffered more than the others from the absence of her mother. I've spent years trying to draw her into something that she'll love enough that she'll want to excel in it.
She appears to have found it, at least for now. I can't tell her what a relief that is to me, so I thought I'd tell all of you.
Her major is something like equestrian management, Calluna, although of course she's not there yet. Apparently she can connect getting there with doing well in school, though, and even just a quarter or a semester of success demonstrates to her that she *can* do it.
This is wonderful, Rob. I know how proud you and and how it lifts the heart to see you child grasping those wishes you had for her....she is a special and fortunate girl to you have you as her Dad - but that I am sure pales as to how fortunate you are to have her as your daughter.
Many happy feelings from this. Thank you for sharing
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Thanks, Beth. This one has in many ways been the most challenging of my children to parent. (The boys are challenging in their own way, but I'm learning to anticipate what they'll blow up next.) It's hard to know how to help a girl who doesn't know what she wants, but I think she's figuring it out.
That doesn't mean all you WN aunties are off the hook for advice, though.
LOL, boys really ARE different from girls, no matter how gender neutral and unbiased you try to be when raising them. Why is it that boys seem to enjoy blowing things up and smashing them so much?
Equestrian management, cool! If she's good enough to run one of those fancy stud farms in KY, she'll earn more than her sister in dental school (it was dental school, right? Or pre-dentistry?)
Vet school is pretty good too, harder to get into than med school, but a lot less insurance paperwork to deal with when you're done. Or, she can wind up like a bunch of us other whackos with animal science degrees who teach anatomy to med students. Lots of options there, even if it's not obvious yet.